Romance Tips

You may think of other ideas as you get into the swing of things.  It only takes practice to be romantic, have fun with it!  (If you are at a loss, pick up a romance novel for ideas.)

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#1 - Know your woman.

Women want to know that they are loved and wanted.  If you learn to notice more things about your wife, it will show that you are interested in her.  When you learn how to use that knowledge, it will show her that you love her and want her.  

Some things you should know: What is her favorite color? What is her favorite flower? What color flatters her the most (brings out the color of her eyes, etc.)?  Does she constantly make comments about needing to lose weight?  How is her house decorated (lots of flowers, lots of natural tones, lots of glass, lots of baskets, lots of farm animals)?  

#2 - Know how to ask for help.   

If you know your woman, you should have no problem finding a saleswoman to help you pick out a gift for your wife.  A salesman may work, but women tend to have an intuition about these things.  Describe your wife to the saleswoman, and let her help you try to figure out what your wife would like.  If nothing else, your wife will be happy that she means so much to you that you spent so much time trying to find the perfect gift to make her feel special. 

#3 - If nobody is available to help you, try to remember these general tips: 

On buying flowers:  

If you intend to buy your wife flowers, but you don't know what her favorite flower is, don't just buy red roses.  Red roses do not tend to show much thought in the actual choosing of the flower, unless it is her favorite flower.  However, her favorite flower may be daisies, or tulips, or lilies, or tropical flowers.  If you want to say something specific with the flowers, use the following guide for choosing roses (if you were told the colors mean something else, go with that): 

Red - Sincere Love, Respect, Courage 
Yellow - Joy, Gladness, Freedom, Friendship 
Pink Infatuation or Romantic Interest 
Peach - Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration or Sympathy 
White - Reverence, Purity, Secrecy, Neutral Feelings 
Black - Death 
Two Roses Joined Together - Engagement 
Red and White Roses Together - Unity 

On buying candy: 

Most women are health conscious these days.  In general, candy may not be the best idea.  If your wife is on a diet, or constantly makes comments about needing to lose weight, or never eats desert, get something else.  On the other hand, if she shows discipline around deserts and genuinely enjoys them (even after the fact), go all out and get her favorite type of candy (she can always freeze what she doesn't eat right away). 

On buying other gifts:  

Does your wife have any collections (teddy bears, quilts, plates, crystal, precious moments figurines, etc.)?  Find something to add to her collection.   If she likes jewelry, get her something unique that fits her personality and tell her why you thought she was like the precious gift.  It has been said never to get a woman an electrical appliance.  However, some women use the appliances like you might use a football, it's fun.  If your wife is a true homemaker and has been hinting around for a special appliance, surprise her. 

On words: 

Women have a great need for security.  One of the biggest comes from knowing how special/loved/needed she is.  You must let her know how much she means to you and why she means so much to you.  No one can help you with what to say, just say it in your own way and she should be more than happy. 

On spontaneity: 

If you go for a stroll and see a flower, pick it for her.  If you see her working extremely hard at something, even though she must be exhausted, help her out.  If she is washing dishes, come up behind her and give her a hug.  If you catch her eye, tell her you love her and how lovely she is to you.  If she does something nice for you, give her a kiss on the cheek.  If she is a romantic and you are not, let her choose a romantic movie.  Watch it with her and just enjoy spending time with her.